How often do you ask “why?” when a friend announces that they’re going to “get effed up tonight”?

Now, compare this to how often you would be asked “why” for doing anything discussed on this site. If you haven’t tried any of these experiments, what would happen if you were to mention something of the sort, and see what kind of reaction comes back?

Or, just take my word for it. Almost everyone asks “why”. WHY?

People apparently understand better the need to drink 40 ounces of alcohol over a wasted weekend than an attempt at tailoring one’s lifestyle to personal interests with, say, an experiment in sleeping less to gain more time spent awake.

Am I missing something here?

And for those who really truly want to know why…

“Why not?” That nip-it-in-the-bud, cop-out answer never satisfied me.

Maybe it was just what Chris Guillebeau said:

“The people who wonder about motivations may not have yet found something they really love that’s worth doing strictly for the sake of doing it. I hope they do  — meanwhile, I’m having fun.”

Maybe because if I didn’t do it, I would deeply regret it. As for why to do it, we each need to figure that out for ourselves.
Maybe because we’re asking “why?” to the wrong pursuits.
Maybe the real question is…

So why do your friends want to get fucked up again?


The hardest Big Pursuit I’ve done so far is starting a late night cookie delivery business for my local college campus. It was scary too.

I was more scared the morning I posted flyers about my grand opening than I was when standing at the start line of the Ironman triathlon at age 18, surrounded by 40-something-aged lifetime veterans. Arguably, it was even harder than biking across the U.S.

I guess I am the most vulnerable when I put myself “out there,” for all to see and evaluate. As strange as it may seem, it might just be an introvert thing.. You could imagine that, from the extrovert’s perspective,  one might feel more vulnerable achieving something for themselves without social support from their friends and family. Whether it’s more challenging to put yourself “out there”, or to go at it alone toward a personal accomplishment, working in your vulnerable area will make you grow.

Where do you feel most vulnerable?

What is the hardest thing for you to do? What if you did it….this year, this month, today, NOW?